However, unmarried teenagers having babies are most apt to disadvantage both themselves and their babies for life. But still, let's give the bulk of young people some credit. Half of teens get through high school never having had sex, and many others have been largely abstinent. Teen girls in particular are aware of what is happening to their peers when they get pregnant in high school: An unwanted pregnancy puts girls in a mess emotionally, academically, healthwise, and financially.
The Kaiser Family Foundation, an independent health policy group dedicated to providing information and analysis on healthcare issues, has partnered with Seventeen magazine to conduct national random telephone surveys of teens about sex. One survey studied teens ages 15 to 17 who practiced abstinence from sexual intercourse—more than half of all teens. Virtually all of them thought that staying a virgin in high school was a good idea, and said they hoped to wait until they were more mature and had a committed relationship before becoming so involved.
But many factors, not just one, weighed heavily on their decision. They included, in rank order from No. 2 down, concern about acquiring a sexually transmitted disease, their parents' views, sex education, religion, moral values, personal reputational concerns, and having friends who had not had sex. What was No. 1 on the list? Fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
So teens may be smarter than we think. Maybe some of the hand-wringing over sex education needs to be informed by the voices of these young people, particularly the teenage girls who have figured out that the burden of unwed motherhood is not for them or their future children.
As in most things unhealthy, from taking up smoking, using drugs, or having racked up a slew of sexual partners before finishing high school, teenage motivation and behavior ultimately come from within. And young people are clearly more health oriented and sensible than adults often give them credit for.